My Family and Other People’s Children: The Care Paradox

My Family and Other People’s Children: The Care Paradox is a powerful, compassionate, and deeply honest look at the realities of children’s social care. Amanda Knowles writes with the authority of decades of lived experience, blending personal stories with sharp insight into the systems designed to protect vulnerable children. What makes this book stand out is its balance — it doesn’t shy away from exposing failures, bureaucracy, and the emotional toll of caregiving, but it also highlights resilience, humanity, and the life-changing impact of genuine care and connection. The stories feel authentic rather than sensationalised, which makes the message even more moving. This is more than a memoir; it’s a thoughtful critique of the care system and a call for greater compassion and understanding. Anyone involved in fostering, social work, education, or childcare will find it especially meaningful, but it’s equally valuable for general readers wanting a clearer picture of the challenges faced by children in care and those supporting them. A thought-provoking and emotional read that stays with you long after the final page. Having had the privilege of working alongside Amanda for over 20 years, I can honestly say this book reflects exactly who she is — dedicated, compassionate, resilient, and deeply committed to improving the lives of children and families. Her passion and integrity shine through on every page.

This book is written by a passionate advocate for children's welfare and the invaluable contribution of therapeutic residential care. She gives a voice to children and young people in care, to caregivers and the care-experienced. It is essential reading for anyone who wants to understand how the child care system has ended up where it is now and and what its future looks like.